Telling Your Family You Can No Longer Care for Elderly Parents
When you’ve decided that you can’t continue to be your parent’s primary caregiver, how do you break it to the family? And how do you manage your own feelings of sadness and guilt?
“Other people don’t always like or understand our decisions,” says Steven Zarit, a professor in the human development and family studies department at Pennsylvania State University and a caregiver support group leader. “We all have limits on what we are able to do, and if we have done the best we can and can’t go on, we shouldn’t feel guilty,” Zarit says.
Read on for a few steps to follow when discussing a change in caregiving arrangements with your family.
- Reframe your decision
It’s normal to feel guilty when you decide to stop being a caregiver for a loved one, but there are other ways to view this change.
- Consider how others will be affected
Your decision to no longer be your parent’s primary caregiver will probably bring change for your other family members, too. They may resent your decision and worry that they’ll now have to put more time and effort into caregiving.
Undoubtedly, there will be complex family dynamics. Past issues between siblings may resurface. And any kind of change is usually difficult for everyone at first.
When she holds family meetings, Qualls finds it effective to ask, “What is most important to you about your mother’s life from today until the day she dies?” This question can help people focus on the parent rather than siblings’ perceived shortcomings or family history. It’s also an opportunity to brainstorm and collaborate.
- Communicate with care and compassion
When you explain that something needs to change, make it clear to siblings that you’re not telling them what to do or forcing them into something they don’t want to do. It’s helpful to use inclusive language, such as:
- “Here are my thoughts”
- “I could use your help figuring out the next steps”
- “We’re in this together”
- “Do you have any other ideas?”
Sometimes the discussion can get heated. But rather than argue, tell family members you’ve done the best you can, and really believe it. If there’s pushback, stay calm.
You might say, “Maybe I could’ve done things differently, but I’ve truly reached the end of the line and need some help.” If they seem willing, tell them they’re welcome to take over caregiving responsibilities.
For some families, it makes sense to find a neutral, third party with clinical training to manage or attend the meeting. Your local Area Agency on Aging in Surprise, AZ may be able to recommend a geriatric care manager, an elder mediator, or a family therapist to help facilitate your discussion.
- Remember to acknowledge your feelings
Do you think others are judging you for not being a good enough daughter or sibling, or for abandoning the original caregiving plan? Do you believe that yourself? Do you feel someone else could have done better? Are others constantly criticizing your caregiving decisions?
If so, try to have self-compassion and be kind to yourself. Feeling exhausted, inadequate, or resentful is often what happens when caregivers set boundaries or change the rules.
Remember that others have been in your situation before, and there are ways to talk to them. Consider joining an in-person or online caregiver support group in Surprise, Arizona.
What’s the next step?
Once you’ve discussed your desire for a caregiving change, you may decide as a family that your aging loved one needs more help than you or your siblings can provide. For any other questions about this in Surprise, Arizona, consider giving us a call here at Mariposa Point Surpass Senior Living.
ADLs and IADLs: An Essential Guide for Seniors in Surprise, Arizona
Understand how to assess your aging loved one’s ability to complete activities of daily living (ADLs) to help ensure they live their best life.
ADLs are basic tasks a person needs to be able to do on their own to live independently, whether in Surprise, Arizona, or beyond. Health issues and aging may make it difficult for seniors to complete certain everyday self-care tasks that are essential to keep them healthy and safe.
The Katz Index of Independence in Activities of Daily Living is an effective tool used to assess overall health and functional status of older adults and those with disabilities. Basic ADLs include six essential skills:
- Bathing and showering: the ability to bathe self and maintain dental, hair, and nail hygiene
- Continence: having complete control of bowels and bladder
- Dressing: the ability to select appropriate clothes and outerwear, and to dress self independently
- Mobility: being able to walk or transfer from one place to another, specifically in and out of a bed or chair
- Feeding (excluding meal preparation): the ability to get food from plate to mouth, and to chew and swallow
- Toileting: the ability to get on and off the toilet and clean self without assistance
What are instrumental activities of daily living (IADLs)?
Instrumental Activities of Daily Living, or IADLs, are more complex activities required for senior independent living in Surprise, Arizona that often involve thinking and organizational skills. IADLs outlined by the Lawton-Brody scale assessment include:
- Cleaning and housekeeping, including maintenance and other home care chores
- Doing laundry
- Managing money
- Managing medications and taking medicines as directed
- Preparing meals
- Shopping for groceries and other necessities
- Transportation, including changing residences and moving
- Using communication devices, including the telephone or computer
Why are ADLs and IADLs important for Arizona caregivers?
ADLs represent everyday tasks that challenge both mental and physical capabilities. A person needs to have the physical ability to perform ADL tasks themselves, and the planning and mental capacity to conceptualize the tasks and understand what needs to be done.
Conversely, a decline in the ability to complete basic ADLs may not be noticeable until later stages of dementia or physical disability.
Knowing your loved one’s ability to complete ADLs can help you and your aging parent’s doctor answer these questions:
- Do you or a neighbor need to check on your aging parent routinely?
- Does your aging loved one need physical therapy?
- Is your aging parent able to continue living independently?
- Would moving to an assisted living community be beneficial?
ADLs can also help caregivers and health care professionals understand the level of care needed. The level of care for someone who can’t complete IADLs is different from the care needed by someone who can’t complete basic ADLs.
In some cases, IADL deficiencies may be managed by different service providers, such as a senior meal preparation or a local Arizona delivery service, a housekeeper, or a money management professional. ADLs require more intensive, hands-on care.
Families rarely ask about ADLs until a parent or senior loved one is going through the process of assessment for long-term care, says Dr. Leslie Kernisan, a geriatric expert.
“If someone is concerned about their mom, then knowing how they’re doing with ADLs is important. It can educate a person and take them from feeling like ‘Mom needs help, I’m worried,’ to be able to answer questions like, ‘OK, where does she need help?’” she says.
She recommends bringing up changes in a loved one’s ability to do these tasks when talking with a physician.
According to Kernisan, it’s a good idea to share changes in ADLs with your loved one’s medical team because:
- A change in ADL can trigger medical evaluations that may uncover a medical issue. It’s important to understand the root cause of the problem or change in ability.
- Understanding root causes can help you and your loved one’s doctor work together to find ways to improve function. Some common ways to improve function include medical treatment, physical therapy, or a device such as a walker.
- Understanding ADLs is critical to having an accurate care plan. If your parent’s doctor doesn’t realize there’s a functional problem, the care plan they create may not be in line with your loved one’s abilities. For example, if the doctor isn’t aware that your loved one is sometimes forgetful, then their expectation that your parent can regularly monitor their blood sugar on their own may not be realistic.
How are ADLs and IADLs assessed?
ADLs and IADLs can be assessed in a variety of ways. Caregiver input can be helpful to create a bigger picture of a person’s functional status. However, caregiver burnout and the tendency to overestimate or underestimate someone’s true abilities can make this method less accurate than others.
Self-reporting can also help get the conversation about ADLs started. No one understands a situation better than the person experiencing it. Self-reporting is especially helpful when individuals have minimal cognitive decline. However, self-report measures leave the results open to a person’s own interpretation.
While a health care professional’s report is often believed to provide the most objective view of a person’s functional status, a combination of assessments may fully capture the picture of disability for a given individual.
The 3 types of ADL assessments physicians use.
Health care professionals commonly use these tools to assess ADLs:
- The Katz Index of Independence in Activities of Daily Living: This is the best choice for patients in long-term care, where disability is generally more severe and stable
- The Barthel ADL Index: This assessment covers two additional domains, including grooming and stairs. It’s best suited to acute care settings, as it is more detailed and better detects subtle changes in a person’s health
- The Functional Independence Measure (FIM): This option is more comprehensive, combining ADLs with IADLs and other social domains
Signs that it’s time to assess ADLs and IADLs
Kernisan suggests keeping an eye out for specific safety factors when visiting a senior relative, including:
- Driving: Have there been any accidents or close calls? Do passengers feel worried?
- Elder abuse: Do you have any concerns about emotional, financial, physical, or verbal abuse?
- Finances: Are there problems paying bills? Are you concerned about scams?
- Health: Has your loved one had any falls? Have there been repeated trips to the ER or hospital?
- Memory and thinking: Have there been problems with forgetting, getting lost, or wandering? Is there concern about poor awareness or poor judgment?
If you answered “yes” to any of the above questions, it may be time to assess your aging loved one’s ADLs and IADLs, either by a medical professional or from your perspective as a family member.
ADL and IADL: assessment tips for caregivers
As you assess your loved one’s ADLs and IADLs capabilities, follow these tips:
- Ask your siblings’, friends’, or neighbors’ opinions. Inquire about any changes you’ve noticed in your loved one’s abilities. Pick two or three people to discuss your concerns.
- Assess on a spectrum. Ask yourself whether your loved one can do the task a little bit, sometimes, or often rather than a simple “yes, they can do the task,” or “no, they can’t.
- Be patient. “If a person is doing a task more slowly than they used to, it doesn’t mean they can’t do the task,” says Kernisan.
- Consider the time of day and how tired they are. Many seniors have sharper cognitive abilities and more energy in the morning.
- Consider their health. If they’re fatigued or fighting a virus, their abilities can be momentarily impaired.
- Find the time. “It’s common to be in a hurry and it’s difficult to find the time to observe, but it’s important to take the time and when you do, be patient,” Kernisan says.
- Look at your own preconceived notions about your loved one. Are they interfering with your ability to make an impartial assessment?
- Make the effort to help correct what you can. Ensure your loved one can live life to the best of their abilities and as independently as possible.
If your loved one is unable to perform daily tasks outlined in the ADLs and IADLs, or if you have other safety factors, it may be time to discuss increasing their level of support.
ADLs and IADLs: a checklist for the elderly
When it comes to assessing ADLs and IADLs, there’s a lot of technical information about different assessments. This can be overwhelming for families to navigate. Here’s what Dr. Kernisan recommends:
- Ask your aging parent’s doctor if a change in medical plan is required (for example, a complicated diabetes plan may need to be revised)
- Ask if your loved one qualifies for a service like Medicaid
- Ask what’s causing any issues or inabilities
- Be aware of your loved one’s true abilities when it comes to ADLs and IADLs
- Consider whether the limitations have short- or long-term implications
- Help your loved one remain independent as long as possible with adaptive assistance
- Seek treatment
How to get help with ADLs for your loved one
If you’re worried about your loved one’s ability to perform everyday tasks, connect with their doctor to discuss your concerns. It’s important to identify any limitations your aging parent may have, but it’s even more critical to support them by finding solutions to help solve or alleviate those limitations, or by finding the care they need.
Taking these steps will help your loved one to be as independent as possible so they can enjoy a greater quality of life.
In some cases, simple lifestyle adjustments such as hearing or vision aids, physical therapy, or assistive devices to make bathing, transferring, or using the toilet easier can help your loved one perform ADLs independently.
And, if you are looking for compassionate senior living or memory care for a loved one, within these CDC guidelines, here in Surprise, Arizona, consider giving us a call at Mariposa Point from Surpass Senior Living. You can contact one of our sales directors here.
Caring for Elderly Loved Ones in Surprise, Arizona During the COVID-19 Pandemic
While everyone is dealing with the impact of the COVID-19 pandemic, whether in Surprise, Arizona or nationally, it’s important to check on senior’s health and boost their mood, even from afar.
“As much as you love the older adults in your life, now is not the time to gather with them, especially if you’re not in their bubble,” said Dr. Angela Catic, assistant professor at the Huffington Center on Aging at Baylor College of Medicine in Houston.
Consider instead what you can do to make this time easier for older adults in your life, such as having a meal delivered or sending flowers. If they’re tech savvy, you can check in with them virtually, enjoying a meal via phone or video conference. If they live nearby, do a window visit.
“You can really observe so much with window visits. See if the older adults are moving around, if they’ve lost weight and how the house looks,” Catic said in a Baylor news release. “Families can even set up tables on each side of the window, turn on their phones and dine together.”
Regularly communicate via phone, video or window, possibly setting up a calling tree among family members so older adults get several calls daily, which can help ease isolation and improve mood. Talk about the future to help them see the light ahead, she said.
Adults who are physically and mentally able to do so should spend time outside every day, walking in the neighborhood or sitting on the porch, Catic suggested.
“They may see people out and about, which is good for their spirits,” she said. “Outdoors is safer than indoors, but they should still wear a mask.”
You can also check in on their memory, thinking skills and mental health with these virtual or window visits, Catic suggested. Discuss current events or reminisce about past holidays to see if they can follow the conversation.
Catic also suggests encouraging older family members who haven’t done so to get a flu shot at their doctor’s office or nearby pharmacy, as well as making sure they get the COVID-19 vaccine when available in Arizona.
“If there are red flags or if something seems off with an older family member, reach out to their medical providers about the best way to address this,” Catic said.
“Whether it’s a virtual or face-to-face visit at an Active Senior Living Community in Surprise, Arizona, hospitals and clinics have safety as their top priority. Maintaining the health of older adults is a priority and we are here and available to help.”
For any other questions about the pandemic or the COVID-19 vaccine, whether about yourself or a loved one, in Surprise, Arizona, consider giving us a call here at Mariposa Point Surpass Senior Living.
Stay Safe in Surprise, Arizona with Surpass and Mariposa Point Senior Living
With the recent approval by the FDA of two COVID-19 vaccines, assisted living communities will be amongst the safest places to live for seniors in Surprise, Arizona. Assisted living communities will have priority access to the vaccine for its residents and team members. The benefits and care of moving to an assisted living may largely outweigh the alternative of staying home.
Vaccine clinics have been scheduled with CVS Pharmacy to administer the vaccine to Arizona residents and team members. Vaccination is the biggest step towards protecting our residents and team members to create a safer community.
Additionally, in our communities, residents have limited contact with outside visitors. The majority of visitors to our communities are health care professionals which prevent residents from having to travel in public. Policies are in place to maintain safe visitation from essential visitors as we understand that seeing family is especially important during these times. Visitors to our building are required to submit temperature checks, questionnaires, and must adhere to our PPE requirements.
Finally, since the beginning of the pandemic, we have been committed to increased disinfection of common areas. We continue to have staff dedicated to keeping our senior living community clean. From having priority access to the vaccine to socially distanced companionship to increased cleaning measures, we work hard to mitigate risks to help keep our Surprise residents safe in our communities.
If you are looking for compassionate senior living or memory care for a loved one, within these CDC guidelines, here in Surprise, Arizona, consider giving us a call at Mariposa Point from Surpass Senior Living. You can contact one of our sales directors here.
Facts about the Covid-19 Vaccine for Surprise, Arizona Seniors
We know there is a lot of information and confusion surrounding the COVID-19 vaccine, so we wanted to help put together a Vaccine FAQ for all Mariposa Point senior care residents, and Surprise Arizona seniors.
Vaccine Priority for Arizona Assisted Living:
The CDC is partnering with Arizona pharmacies to offer on-site COVID-19 vaccination services for residents in all long-term care settings, including assisted living facilities where most individuals are over 65 years of age. Once a vaccine is available, the residents and staff at licensed communities, like ours in Surprise, Arizona, will have priority through CVS Pharmacy. CVS will bill your insurer, Medicare, or Medicaid for the cost of administering the vaccine.
This means that if you are a resident or have taken financial possession of a room at one of our Arizona senior care communities prior to the initial vaccine clinics, then you will be included in the first tranche of recipients for the vaccine. As we all know, seniors are affected the most by COVID-19, so this is a crucial opportunity to stay safe and healthy
Benefits of the Vaccine:
The COVID-19 vaccine has been tested through clinical trials over 20,000 times to make sure it is safe and approved for distribution. The test subjects include a diverse range of races, ethnicity, and age – including adults 65 and older. Ultimately, there were no serious safety concerns that outweigh the life-saving capability. The ACIP and CDC have agreed that the benefits of saving lives with the COVID-19 vaccination outweigh the risk of possible side effects.
Possible Side Effects:
- injection site pain
- tiredness
- headache
- muscle pain
- chills
- joint pain
- fever
- injection site swelling
- injection site redness
- nausea
- feeling unwell
- swollen lymph nodes
How It Works:
Each recipient of the vaccine will receive two shots of the vaccine into the muscle, spaced out over 3 weeks. If you receive one dose, it is recommended to receive the second dose as well. The duration of the vaccine is currently unknown.
What should you mention to your vaccination provider before you get the Pfizer-BioNTech Vaccine?
Tell the vaccination provider about all of your medical conditions, including if you:
- have any allergies
- have a fever
- have a bleeding disorder or are on a blood thinner
- are immunocompromised or are on a medicine that affects your immune system
- are pregnant or plan to become pregnant
- are breastfeeding
- have received another COVID-19 vaccine
Distributing The Vaccine Safely is Top Priority:
The FDA has implemented an emergency Use Authorization (EUA) for the Pfizer/BioNTech COVID-19 vaccination and plans to monitor the distribution closely along with the CDC. Using robust systems and specific data systems, the FDA and CDC will be able to quickly and safely track the COVID-19 vaccine. Learn more about COVID-19 vaccine safety monitoring. Additionally, the CDC is working with Arizona pharmacies and others who will be distributing the vaccine to help Surprise long-term care facilities educate residents and their families.
Further FAQs from the CDC:
FACT: COVID-19 vaccines will not give you COVID-19
None of the COVID-19 vaccines currently in development in the United States use the live virus that causes COVID-19. There are several different types of vaccines in development. However, the goal for each of them is to teach our immune systems how to recognize and fight the virus that causes COVID-19. Sometimes this process can cause symptoms, such as fever. These symptoms are normal and are a sign that the body is building immunity.
It typically takes a few weeks for the body to build immunity after vaccination. That means it’s possible a person could be infected with the virus that causes COVID-19 just before or just after vaccination and get sick. This is because the vaccine has not had enough time to provide protection.
FACT: COVID-19 vaccines will not cause you to test positive on COVID-19 viral tests
Vaccines currently in clinical trials in the United States won’t cause you to test positive on viral tests, which are used to see if you have a current infection.
If your body develops an immune response, which is the goal of vaccination, there is a possibility you may test positive on some antibody tests. Antibody tests indicate you had a previous infection and that you may have some level of protection against the virus. Experts are currently looking at how COVID-19 vaccination may affect antibody testing results.
FACT: People who have gotten sick with COVID-19 may still benefit from getting vaccinated
Due to the severe health risks associated with COVID-19 and the fact that re-infection with COVID-19 is possible, people may be advised to get a COVID-19 vaccine even if they have been sick with COVID-19 before.
At this time, experts do not know how long someone is protected from getting sick again after recovering from COVID-19. The immunity someone gains from having an infection, called natural immunity, varies from person to person. Some early evidence suggests natural immunity may not last very long.
We won’t know how long immunity produced by vaccination lasts until we have a vaccine and more data on how well it works.
Both natural immunity and vaccine-induced immunity are important aspects of COVID-19 that experts are trying to learn more about, and CDC will keep the public informed as new evidence becomes available.
FACT: Getting vaccinated can help prevent getting sick with COVID-19
While many people with COVID-19 have only a mild illness, others may get a severe illness or they may even die. There is no way to know how COVID-19 will affect you, even if you are not at increased risk of severe complications. If you get sick, you also may spread the disease to friends, family, and others around you while you are sick. COVID-19 vaccination helps protect you by creating an antibody response without having to experience sickness. Learn more about how COVID-19 vaccines work.
FACT: Receiving an mRNA vaccine will not alter your DNA
mRNA stands for messenger ribonucleic acid and can most easily be described as instructions for how to make a protein or even just a piece of a protein. mRNA is not able to alter or modify a person’s genetic makeup (DNA). The mRNA from a COVID-19 vaccine never enters the nucleus of the cell, which is where our DNA are kept. This means the mRNA does not affect or interact with our DNA in any way. Instead, COVID-19 vaccines that use mRNA work with the body’s natural defenses to safely develop protection (immunity) to disease. Learn more about how COVID-19 mRNA vaccines work.
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It’s extremely important to practice healthy aging throughout your life even well into your golden years. At our Surprise, Arizona Surpass Senior Living communities, it’s a priority for us to make sure your loved ones are staying healthy, especially in this pandemic. If you have any further questions, please reach out to our Surpass team. You can contact one of our sales directors here.
For Surprise, Arizona Seniors, The COVID-19 Vaccine is Now a Reality
Keeping your loved ones safe has been our most important priority during this long pandemic. From the onset, we put into place the necessary safety protocols, providing protection and peace of mind for you and your loved ones. Soon, we will have the long-anticipated COVID-19 vaccine that will help end this virus. At Mariposa Point in Surprise, Arizona, we are mindful of every aspect of our resident’s life as we continue to keep them safe and healthy in our active senior living communities.
Vaccine Priority for Arizona Assisted Living:
The CDC is partnering with Surprise, Arizona pharmacies to offer on-site COVID-19 vaccination services for senior residents in all long-term care settings, including Arizona assisted living facilities, where most individuals are over 65 years of age. Once a vaccine is available, the residents and staff at licensed communities, like ours, will have priority through CVS Pharmacy. CVS will bill your insurer, Medicare, or Medicaid for the cost of administering the vaccine.
This means that if you are a Mariposa Point resident, or have taken financial possession of a room at one of our communities prior to the initial vaccine clinics, then you will be included in the first tranche of Arizona recipients for the vaccine. As we all know, seniors are affected the most by COVID-19, so this is a crucial opportunity to stay safe and healthy.
Timeline:
Arizona has started to distribute vaccines, and will prioritize health care workers and assisted living communities. Other states are only a few weeks away from distribution and will also prioritize essential workers and seniors who are affected the most by COVID-19.
Prevention:
Outbreaks of preventable infectious diseases occur when many people choose not to get vaccinated. Those who are not vaccinated are a threat and can spread disease to other people who have medical issues and cannot be vaccinated. Per the CDC, it is more important than ever to receive the flu vaccine this year and we strongly encourage all of our residents and employees to be vaccinated against the flu and COVID-19.
For any other questions about the vaccine, whether about yourself or a loved one, in Surprise, Arizona, consider giving us a call here at Mariposa Point Surpass Senior Living.
The Best Active Engagement and Activities Programming at Surprise, Arizona for Senior Living
Assisted living in Surprise, Arizona can provide your loved one with the ability to experience healthy aging through active engagement and social interaction.
Staying active is not only important for all of us but especially for our Arizona seniors. According to the CDC, physical activity for seniors can reduce the risk of diseases and falls, as well as increase overall mental and physical health. This is just one of the many reasons why our activity programming plays a primary role in our Active Adult Living senior communities, here in Surprise, Arizona.
Activities:
Our Surprise, Arizona Senior Living Surpass community prides itself on the robust activity programming offered to our residents. And our customized care is designed to meet the unique needs of each resident and to keep your loved ones active and thriving! We offer a variety of programs such as Bingo, Painting, Brain Games, Putt-Putt, Balloon Volleyball, and Bowling.
Depending on CDC guidelines, we also make it a focus to spend time outside the community with field trips, cookouts, car parades, and patio visits.
Traditions:
In addition to Assisted Living, our Arizona senior programs in Traditions are also very important and we focus on a variety of activities. Our Traditions team is trained to turn even a simple conversation into a potentially reminiscent activity to assist our residents in still feeling the way they did before the Disease. Traditions activities may include: baking, word games, and listening to music.
These activities are designed to stimulate our Arizona senior resident’s cognitive abilities and help keep their brain engaged. For example, when baking, staff will talk about different things pertaining to cooking and occasionally a smell may trigger a memory. A song, type of food, or even a certain smell can help make our residents feel a certain way, and will help them get back into that mindset where they’re able to tell stories.
Socialization:
Socialization is another key element in mental health among our Arizona seniors, and goes hand in hand with our activity programs. Isolation and depression is a very real aspect of seniors lives, which is why we incorporate activities that can support socialization. Even dinner can be an important time of day for your loved ones to get out and talk with their friends.
Staff:
Finally, the Program Directors at our Surprise, Arizona community go above and beyond to care for each resident, and make sure they are indeed thriving. We focus on physical and social needs, but also cognitive, sensory, and spiritual needs as well. It is their full-time job to make sure your loved one is doing great and having the time of their life, and they do their job extremely well.
If you are looking for compassionate senior living or memory care for a loved one, within the CDC guidelines, here in Surprise, Arizona, consider giving us a call at Mariposa Point from Surpass Senior Living. You can contact one of our sales directors here.
Is My Loved One Safe in Surprise, Arizona Assisted Living and Memory Care (Especially During Covid-19)?
Moving your loved one to a Surprise, Arizona senior living community can be a difficult and emotional decision, but oftentimes the correct one. There are a variety of aspects to consider, but the main question is: will they be safe? At Surpass Senior Living, here in Arizona, we pride ourselves on the quality of life we create for your loved one.
We provide our residents with a homelike environment in a comfortable apartment to help foster independence and the peace of mind knowing that assistance is available should they require it. In this post, we have laid out a few different reasons explaining why assisted living and memory care is not only safe for your loved one but the right decision for you as well.
Quality of Care
Caring for your loved one requires a lot of time and effort, which you may not always be able to provide. That is why it can be a safer and more logical option to utilize the trained professionals at senior living communities.
Our amazing Mariposa Point teams can provide the level of care that seniors may be unable to receive at home. Surprise, Arizona Assisted Living and Memory Care may be most beneficial for seniors who:
- Have a medical condition that requires attention throughout the day and a loved one or caregiver is not always there to provide it or does not have the expertise to address it.
- Need assistance with bathing, going to the bathroom, or eating.
- Need assistance with managing medications, transportation, cooking meals, and housekeeping.
- Have Alzheimer’s or other forms of dementia can be cared for appropriately and safely.
- Are living with others that cannot socially distance themselves.
Covid-19
On the note of social distancing, our Surprise, Arizona senior care communities are following strict policies set by the CDC to keep our residents as safe as possible. These policies include, but are not limited to, hand hygiene, social distancing, face masks, routine cleaning of communal areas and limiting communal gatherings. We continually revisit these policies with the help of a clinical consultant to ensure we try to mitigate the virus. In addition, we have enhanced safety measures in place to provide peace of mind for you:
- Staff trained to identify Covid-19 symptoms and testing is completed on-site if any symptoms arise.
- Resident temperature checks two times daily with additional screening.
- Covid testing completed on new residents prior to move-in.
- Team members screened prior to each shift at the community.
- Trained care staff on-site 24/7 to monitor health and wellness and provide direct care.
- We utilize advanced geofencing technology to prohibit entry by people who have been to places with active Covid-19.
Social Interaction
According to various studies, isolation and loneliness can lead to depression, elevated blood pressure, and early mortality in Arizona seniors. This is especially concerning for seniors aging at home, who are unable to see family and friends or visit local Surprise senior centers.
At our Surprise, Arizona senior communities, residents are safely quarantined and monitored to ensure they stay safe. Our teams have worked hard to continue activities and implement safe ways of social interaction and active engagement for our residents.
Environment
Our purpose-built communities are designed to minimize the health risks that seniors face at home. All of our flooring surfaces are non-slip, including bathrooms in the apartments. Also, all carpeting is short pile, which reduces the risk of tripping and falling. Finally, all bathrooms have safety rails and hallways have handrails throughout the community.
On-call staff also provides peace of mind in medical emergencies. Rooms have nurse call systems to notify staff in case of falls or injuries. This means seniors don’t have to worry about struggling to contact help or waiting to be found after a medical emergency at home.
Also, you don’t have to worry about checking smoke detectors, carbon monoxide alarms, or replacing fire extinguishers. In the event of an emergency — like a tornado, earthquake, or fire — our Surprise, Arizona senior care staff is prepared to handle the situation.
Sources:
https://www.nia.nih.gov/news/social-isolation-loneliness-older-people-pose-health-risks
https://www.cdc.gov/aging/publications/features/lonely-older-adults.html
If you are looking for compassionate senior living or memory care for a loved one, within the CDC guidelines, here in Surprise, Arizona, consider giving us a call at Mariposa Point from Surpass Senior Living. You can contact one of our sales directors here.
Surprise, Arizona: 8 Tips for Dealing With Aging Parents Who Won’t Listen
Making the decision to place your loved ones in assisted living can be difficult, especially when you’re met with stubborn parents. At Surpass Senior Living in Surprise, Arizona, we understand it can be a sensitive and challenging issue to discuss. Even though Arizona senior living communities are here to help your loved ones and assist them in their daily routines, convincing them may be harder than you would like. These 8 tips from A Place For Mom are a great resource to get started.
If you’re struggling with aging parents who refuse help, you’re far from alone: a whopping 77% of adult children believe their parents are stubborn about taking their advice or getting help with daily tasks, according to a study by researchers at Penn State University. Fortunately, the situation isn’t hopeless.
How do you get your aging parents to listen to you?
Mary Heitger-Marek, a 50-year-old program analyst from Annapolis, Maryland, like many of us, is asking this question daily. “I can’t even begin to tell you how many times my husband and I have suggested options to improve my parents’ quality of life, and they’ve turned us down,” she says.
“I feel like we could open a senior care business because of all the programs, aid and other things we’ve looked into for them.”
Unfortunately, Mary’s feelings are not uncommon when caring for aging parents. Surprise, Arizona aging care and health professionals recommend the following steps to relieve the resentment and anxiety that can accompany caring for aging parents and loved ones:
1. Try to understand the motivation behind their behavior
Aging is a difficult process for virtually everyone. Many older adults are living with dementia or mental health issues, including anxiety and depression. Taking time to understand how your parents might be feeling can help you communicate with them better.
“Realizing that your parents’ autonomy is important to them can be beneficial as well,” says social worker Suzanne Modigliani, a Massachusetts-based aging life care specialist who works with families to solve elder care problems. She suggests asking yourself some key questions about your loved ones’ behavior:
- Are they acting this way out of habit?
- To assert independence?
- Due to depression?
- Because they’re confused or have dementia?
- What are they afraid of?
- Identifying the root cause, or causes, of your parents’ behavior can help you identify the best way to make positive changes.
2. Accept the situation
While you might wish you could control your elderly parents for their own good, the reality is you can’t force them to do anything. Modigliani asserts, “[Your parents] are adults with the right to make decisions — even poor ones.”
Accepting this fact — as hard as it is — can help lower your stress and even improve your relationship with your mother and/or father.
3. Choose your battles
People don’t respond well to nagging, real or perceived. In the long run, it might help your case to stop insisting your parents update their phones, join an Arizona fitness class or complete other beneficial, but nonessential, tasks.
Instead, decide what issues are the most important and focus on them — at least initially. Matters involving your parents’ safety, for instance, should take top priority.
But remember, they’re much more likely to take your concerns seriously if you don’t bombard them with several at once, no matter how valid they may be.
4. Don’t beat yourself up
Even professional family mediator Roseann Vanella of Marlton, N.J., has found little success in dealing with elderly parents. Her father has dementia, and her mother has a rare blood
disorder. Still, her mother insisted on taking her husband to Sicily on vacation.
“I can’t stop you, so at least get medical jet insurance,” Vanella said. Her mother said she would.
Soon after arriving in Italy, her mother’s disease flared up: she needed a blood transfusion — at home. Vanella’s mother admitted she never purchased insurance, and Vanella and her brother were on the next plane to Italy.
“After that, I said, ‘She’s never going to take him to Europe,’ but she did,” Vanella says. “I told her how bad it was for my dad since his dementia had progressed.”
Again, Vanella had to fly to Italy and bring her parents back. “The hardest part is knowing something could have been averted, especially in terms of my dad’s dementia, but wasn’t,” she notes.
“My advice is not to hit your head against the wall too hard. There isn’t a lot we can do sometimes but stand by, watch closely, and be able to jump in when needed.”
5. Treat your aging parents like adults
While it may feel as if you and your parents have switched roles at times, they’re still your parents, and want to be treated with respect. “Avoid infantilizing your parents,” said Dr. Robert Kane, former director of the Center on Aging at the University of Minnesota, and author of The Good Caregiver in 2015.
“Dealing with a stubborn parent is not the same as dealing with a stubborn child. Older people should be autonomous,” he says.
“When parents are behaving irrationally, it can be tempting to threaten to move them to a nursing home against their will, or insist you know what’s best. But these tactics will only drive a wedge between you and your parents.”
When it comes to dealing with aging parents, remember this: Above all, the goal is to help your parents receive the best care possible.
You’re much more likely to get positive results by treating your aging parents like the adults that they are. This goes for simple tasks, such as helping your parents remember to take their medications, and harder tasks, like helping them get treatment for diabetes.
6. Ask them to do it for the kids (or grandkids)
If your mom isn’t willing to change her behavior for herself, maybe she will for a loved one.
Kane’s mother quit smoking after his sister argued that her second-hand smoke was a risk to the grandchildren.
Another approach to dealing with aging parents is to be direct about how it affects you.
Communicate your worries to your parent, and explain how your anxieties will be tempered if he or she follows your advice.
7. Find an outlet for your feelings
If you’re angry or resentful that your elderly parent refuses to move to a safer living situation or take their medication as directed, it’s important to vent — but not to your parents. Instead, confide in, or strategize with, a friend, sibling, therapist, online support group or a Surprise, Arizona senior living advisor.
This is especially important if you are the primary caregiver to your aging parents.
No matter how deeply you care about your mom and dad, it’s easy to become overwhelmed with frustration, fear and anxiety when constantly dealing with their irrational behavior. Guard against this by caring for yourself and finding activities to help release negative emotions.
8. Plan ahead — and talk about those plans
Even if your parent has not been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease or dementia, living with any kind of memory loss can be very difficult for seniors to deal with, or even acknowledge. Helping your aging parents remember important dates eases frustration for everyone.
Is there a family celebration they want to attend that’s coming up, such as an anniversary, graduation or wedding, whether in Arizona or elsewhere? Bring it up. Talk about it frequently. Share in the excitement together.
What do you do when an elderly parent refuses needed care?
Ironically, you should listen.
By paying attention to your aging parents’ needs and heeding the advice of health professionals, you can make dealing with aging parents less stressful for everyone — even if Mom and Dad don’t always listen to you.
Source: https://www.aplaceformom.com/caregiver-resources/articles/parents-wont-listen/
And, especially, if you are looking for compassionate senior living or memory care for a loved one, here in Surprise, Arizona, consider giving us a call at Mariposa Point from Surpass Senior Living.
10 Proven Ways in Surprise, Arizona to Keep the Mind Sharp as You Age
It’s extremely important to practice healthy aging throughout your life even well into your golden years. At our Surprise, Arizona Surpass Senior Living communities, it’s a priority for us to make sure your loved ones are staying sharp. From exercise and nutrition to intellectual stimulation, we make it our focus to incorporate these aspects into our residents’ daily routines. And, even though our priority is with your loved ones, it’s never too late to start stimulating your own mind!
1. Exercise for a healthier mind
Your mind and body are interconnected so, often, what benefits the body benefits the brain. Regular exercise, even taking a simple walk, goes a long way toward improving your memory care and cognitive skills, according to Dr. Scott McGinnis, an instructor in neurology at Harvard Medical School.
In fact, the foot’s impact during a walk sends pressure waves through the arteries, increasing blood flow and resulting in a healthier mind, according to researchers at New Mexico Highlands University. Try adding some of these physical activities to your daily or weekly routine to boost blood flow to your brain:
- Hiking on nearby Arizona nature trails
- Tennis or pickle ball
- Walking your dog
- Yoga or tai chi
- Water aerobics
2. Read for intellectual stimulation
In a study in the journal Neurology, regular reading and writing in late life reduced the rate of memory decline by 32%.
Here are ideas to get reading more often:
- Join or start a book club through your church, temple, or local library or book store.
- Read to your grandchildren, whether in person or via FaceTime or Skype.
- Subscribe to a magazine or newspaper.
- Set aside a time of day for reading.
- Read only what you like — it’s OK to give up and choose something else.
3. Eat healthy to stimulate your brain
You may know that nuts, fish, and red wine have been linked to a healthy brain. For an extra brain boost, try including these foods in your diet, suggests Healthline:
- Salmon is filled with Omega-3 fatty acids, major building blocks of the brain.
- Green tea improves alertness and focus. It’s rich in polyphenols and antioxidants, and has been linked with a reduction in the risk of Alzheimer’s disease and Parkinson’s.
- Eggs have many nutrients tied to brain health such as B6, B12, folate, and choline. Choline helps create a neurotransmitter called acetylcholine, which helps regulate mood and memory.
- Blueberries have antioxidants, which have been shown to improve communication between brain cells, delay short-term memory loss, and reduce inflammation.
4. Strive for good posture
If your mother or teachers told you to sit up, they were right to — maintaining an upright posture improves circulation and blood flow to the brain. Here are three ways to improve yours:
- Sleep with your spine aligned: Sleeping on your back or side is generally less stressful on your spine, according to Cleveland Clinic. In back sleeping, gravity keeps your body centered over your spine. If you sleep on your side, keep your head in neutral posture with your chin straight ahead.
- Improve your balance: Staying balanced reduces the risk of falls and benefits the spine. Try online or in-person yoga for beginner’s classes to improve balance.
- Maintain a healthy weight: Carrying extra weight adds stress to your muscles and makes it more difficult to maintain proper posture.
5. Get plenty of sleep to improve memory
Sleep problems can lead to trouble with memory, concentration, and other cognitive functions, says the National Institute on Aging. Memories and newly learned skills move to more permanent regions of the brain while you sleep, according to the National Sleep Foundation (NSF). This makes them easier to recall.
Adults 65 and older should aim for seven to eight hours of sleep, says the NSF. If you’re between the ages of 26 and 64, the goal is to get seven to nine hours of sleep.
Do you want to ensure you’re getting the best sleep possible? Here are some tips to help:
- Stay consistent: Pick a bedtime and stick with it — a routine will help you sleep better overall. This also includes setting a regular time to wake up on weekends.
- Avoid heavy food: Large serving sizes can irritate your stomach causing you to lose sleep. Instead, when you’re hungry at night, have small snacks like nuts or slices of fruit.
- Limit stimulants: Try to avoid coffee, cola, cigarettes, and chocolate for up to four to six hours before bed.
- Limit alcohol: Alcohol disrupts REM and slow-wave sleep, which are important for memory. It’s best to avoid alcohol four to six hours before bed.
6. Play games or draw
Paint, color in an adult coloring book, or grab a pen and paper and draw. Whether it’s a masterpiece, or a mere doodle, making something artistic is a creative workout and an intellectual activity for the brain.
Games are another excellent and simple way to sharpen and stimulate your mind. Here are a few fun games for your brain:
- Sudoku
- Chess
- Scrabble
- Trivia
8. Listen to music or play an instrument
Many people in Arizona find listening to or playing music enjoyable, but that’s not the only benefit — it also improves memory function in older adults, according to a 2019 study in Frontiers in Psychology. Finding your favorite tunes, or learning to read or play music is easier than ever thanks to versatile platforms and technology:
- YouTube: A classic way to search for your favorite songs, music videos, or instrument tutorials. You can listen to your favorite songs while learning to play them.
- Spotify: A popular platform that includes new and older songs from all around the world. Create playlists easily, and listen to your favorite songs anytime you want.
- Pandora: Stream music for free and check out new artist or song recommendations. You can easily discover new music based on artists you already like and build your catalog.
- Take Lessons: Schedule a lesson online or in-person with an instructor at a price that works for you. Group lessons are available too, so you can learn with loved ones.
8. Learn a foreign language to boost cognitive functioning
Even if international travel isn’t in your plans, learning a new language can be beneficial. It improves cognitive functioning in older adults, according to a review of several studies in Frontiers in Human Neuroscience.
9. Find a new hobby to strengthen your brain
Learning a craft or skill can stimulate your mind, relieve boredom, and liven up your daily routine. Many local Arizona colleges and Surprise senior centers offer engaging, low-cost lectures and classes for older adults. Whether you’re learning a new recipe, beefing up your computer skills, ongoing education is a surefire way to stay sharp. What interests you?
- Carpentry
- Sewing
- Gardening
- Cooking
- Knitting
- Photography
- Fishing
- Golfing
- Swimming
10. Write frequently
Writing improves working memory and communication abilities. In the end, it doesn’t matter what you decide to write because simply expressing yourself will boost your brain activity. These 9 easy writing exercises can jumpstart your creative energy. Have fun, and enjoy a brain workout by writing one of the following:
- Poetry
- Creative stories
- Song lyrics
- Hand-written letters
- Emails
- Blog posts
- Cards
Source: https://www.aplaceformom.com/caregiver-resources/articles/sharp-mind/
Although there are no clinically proven ways to reverse the course of brain diseases like Alzheimer’s, these tips may help combat normal, age-related mental decline. By continuing to find unique ways to stimulate your brain, you increase the odds your brain will thrive for years to come. And, if you are looking for memory care for yourself or a loved one, in Surprise, Arizona, consider giving us a call at Mariposa Point from Surpass Senior Living.